Bei jedem Event, jedem Festival, jedem Club, bei dem es getrennte Toiletten gibt gehen die Frauen auch auf das Herrenklo, weil der andrang vor dem Damenklo viel zu groß ist und es bei den Männern gemäßigter zugeht.

Wenn ein Mann aufs Damenklo gehen würde, weil bei den Herren zu viel los ist, würde er zum Täter tituliert werden und am nächsten Tag wäre TikTok voll mit Empörungen. Er habe den Safe Space der Frauen missachtet usw.

Frauen haben auf dem Herrenklo genau so nichts zu suchen. An den Pissoirs können sie eh nicht pinkeln und tbh ich will beim pinkeln nicht von einer Gruppe mit 40 jähriger Frauen die zu viel Aperol hatten kommentiert werden. Männern steht genau so ein Safe Space in der Öffentlichkeit zu.

Entweder man macht getrennte Toiletten oder halt nur Unisextoiletten mit getrennten Räumen zwischen Kabinen und Pissoir. Oder man lässt Pissiors einfach weg und macht nur noch Kabinen.

It is wild to me that this is acceptable and I see it everywhere. Meanwhile we had to walk around facing the world with our acne in full force. 🫠

You can bring back any car, modern engine but body is 100% unchanged.

What are you bringing back?

I’m 29M and my sister is 26F. We live about ten minutes away from each other. We get along pretty well overall and this honestly wasn’t an issue until the last couple months.

Last year I gave her a spare key to my apartment because I travel occasionally for work and she agreed to check on my cat when I’m gone. She’s probably used it for that 4 or 5 times and I’ve always appreciated it.

A few months ago I came home from work and she was sitting on my couch watching TV. Apparently she had been nearby, needed to use the bathroom, and figured I wouldn’t care.

I thought it was a little weird but didn’t make a big deal about it. I just told her to text me first next time.

Then it happened again.

The second time she had stopped by to grab a jacket she left at my place. Again, I told her I don’t care if she comes over, I just want her to ask before using the key when I’m home or in town.

She acted like I was being overly formal because we’re siblings, but said okay.

About three weeks ago I noticed some leftovers missing from my fridge. I assumed I ate them and forgot about it until my sister casually mentioned that she had stopped by on her lunch break because my apartment was closer to her work than hers.

That actually annoyed me because at that point she wasn’t even coming over for a reason involving me. She was basically using my apartment as a second apartment.

I told her pretty directly that the key was for emergencies and taking care of my cat, not so she could let herself in whenever she wanted.

She apologized and I thought that was the end of it.

Last Friday I got off work early and came home around 1:30. My sister was in my apartment with one of her friends. They had gotten takeout and were sitting at my kitchen counter eating.

I asked what they were doing there and she said they had been shopping nearby and wanted somewhere to eat before going to another store.

I got pretty pissed off and told her I had asked her multiple times not to do this.

She said she didn’t understand why it mattered because she wasn’t stealing anything or making a mess, and that I’m never bothered when she comes over while I’m actually there.

I told her that’s because I know she’s coming over when I’m there.

She and her friend left. I texted her later asking for my spare key back. She said she would give it back the next time she saw me.

The more I thought about it, though, the more uncomfortable I got because she’s had that key for over a year and I have no idea if she ever made a copy. So yesterday I paid $140 to have the lock changed.

She found out because she came over today to return the old key and tried it before knocking.

Now she’s extremely offended that I actually changed the lock. She says asking for the key back should have been enough and that changing the lock makes it seem like I think she’s a thief or some kind of dangerous person.

Our mom also thinks I went too far. Her argument is that my sister was being inconsiderate, but she never damaged anything or took anything besides food, and I could have just taken the key back and moved on.

I don’t think my sister is dangerous and I don’t think she was going to rob me. I changed it because I had asked her three separate times to stop letting herself into my home and she kept doing it anyway.

The only part making me question it is that she really did help me out a lot with my cat, and now I’ll have to find someone else whenever I travel. I also probably could have waited to see whether returning the key solved the problem before spending money on a new lock.

AITAH for changing it anyway?